Children and teens in distress experience many issues that effect their sense of security and wellbeing. Issues such as school difficulties, ADHD, defiance, divorce, temper tantrums, their parents having distress, abuse, the environment, familial patterns, adolescent development issues. Often children and teens don’t know how to express their depression or anxiety and it presents as anger, defiance, ADHD. When any combination of these issues are impacting the quality of their relationships they often lose connection, sense of safety and security is threatened, loss of trust and love, hopelessness. They can go from feeling safe and connected to alone, lost, disapproved off, picked on, and bullied at school, depressed. Often parents and schools fail to see the destress the child or teen is experiencing, and label the child or teen, provide consequences when what is needed is positive attachment interventions, and increased understanding of current developmental stages.
It’s time to seek assistance to interrupt the cycle. At times its helpful to include parents in therapy to explore and progress together to increase awareness of the negative cycle and decrease it, to increase skills to support the child or teen, and increase compassion and empathy for their distress, sadness, depression, and grief, learn what the child or teen is really saying in their moments of anguish, anger and fear as they let fly destructive statements and behaviors of defiance and tantrums. These are desperate attempts to feel heard, feel close, feel loved, and feel safe again, attempts to solve their problems.
Children and teens often benefit from individual therapy, as they increase their decision making, problem solving, and emotional regulation skills. They benefit from increasing self-esteem, and emotional processing.
I am passionate about assisting children and teens in therapy, I use effective approaches such as emotionally focused and attachment, emotional processing, mindfulness, EMDR, systems type therapies, and more. All of these approaches are effective in processing the past issues that bubble up in current relationships and help with increasing their ability to invest in relationship again, emotionally regulate more effectively, and increase ability to problem solve, make good choices, and gain skills to compensate for issues such as ADHD. I address a variety of Issues that impact family relationships.